When I see a scar, I see something else. I think about how much it probably hurt, of course, but I also think about why it's there in the first place.
Some scars are lessons-- learning when you're five that the iron is really really hot. Some are from a traumatic experience or surgery-- a mark of courage. And the rest are most usually attached to some wild story.
The great thing about scars, is no matter how small, it seems you don't forget why they're there. Each scar has it's own story behind it, and those seem to stick around remarkably well, sometimes more so than the scar itself.
I decided to ask around for the best 'stories behind the scar.' Here are some of the tales I was told:
Marks of Bravery
"When I was a freshman in high school I was at soccer practice and passed out mid warm up run. Come to find out I had a hole in my heart where 90 percent of the wall between my upper chambers were gone mixing the oxygenated and deoxygenated blood causing my heart to work harder and enlarge ten times its normal size. So I had to get open heart surgery to fix the hole or else I would have died before 18 years old-- my doctor said my heart and hole was the largest he'd ever seen. So now I have a nice scar in the middle of my chest." -Brittany M.
"I had a calcium buildup on my arm, and decided to have removal surgery to get rid of the pain, knowing there would be a huge scar after. A surgery intern was the one who closed the incision, and they didn't do a very good job. The scar didn't heal right, so it was much bigger than they expected. A few years later, I watched them cut out the entire scar to fix the damage, which left me with a new one. It's still pretty big, but I used to be very self-conscious about it. Now I have accepted it as part of me. So sometimes when people ask me what happened I like to make up stories (i.e. shark attack, stabbed, car accident), because I get a kick out of it, and who cares anyway?" -Ashley J.
"I saw two guys ganging up on my friend, so I stepped in. Three more guys decided to jump on me. I was fighting those three guys which resulted in a split from my nose to my lip. I remember the shot of novocaine directly in the cut (before the stiches) hurt a lot more than the punch." -Anthony V. (Dad)
'I Don't Remember ALL the Details...' Scars
As I have come to find, many scars happen to be result of a bit too much to drink, and bad decisions (for example, someone I know deciding that burning yourself with a lit cigarette would be hilarious). Sometimes the exact details are fuzzy, but here is a small collection of those tipsy triumphs.
"It was November, and in my town high schoolers go to this place called the "Crater" in the woods to drink. One night I was there and my best friend, Meredith, who was holding my hand, tripped and brought me down with her. My hand was gushing blood so I was holding toilet paper on it that some random kid had in his back pack. A few minutes later I heard from my ex boyfriend say, "where the f*** is Meredith?" Then I heard "what?" I turned and she was on the ground, he was gone, and her nose was bleeding and broken. So we walked together, my hand gushing, her nose gushing. I was worried about her that night, so I didn't get stitches. Now we both have scars from that night." -M.
"I went sailing black-out-drunk and ended up tipping the entire sail boat over. In the process I cut my foot on a broken bottle." -C.
"Well New Year's Eve I went to a party and there was a ton of people. The clock turned midnight and the cops kicked open the door and threw in pepper spray bombs. There was like 100 kids in the room and they barricaded the front door so everyone had to squeeze out the back. It was a normal sized door during a stampede, so my hand got stuck and cut open. Turns out I got it for nothing, we all got trapped by the cops in the back yard anyway." -K.
"I was peeing in the dark, I didn't have much balance at the time. I ended up falling, rolling down a hill, and my hand found a glass bottle at the bottom. I'm just glad it was my hand." -M.
Memory Scars
Some scars have stories attached that are just plain funny. (Though, at the time, probably not so funny.)Like, when my brother decided to make french fries while shirtless, resulting in a straight scar across his stomach from the pan.
"I have a scar on my head. Hit it on a moving ceiling fan. It was great." -Ally P
"Me and my brother got into a pillow fight. I saw the pillow coming right for my face, so I put my hand up, punching myself in the face. I started bleeding everywhere and had to get stitches up there. Nobody can really see the scar, but I'll never forget it. My brother sure won that pillow fight." -Katie O.
"I have one on my tongue-- cause I bit through it. And had to get it stitched back on. Because my brother threw a baseball at my face." -Katrina B.
"So I'm four years old and laying on the ground in my brother’s room while he is vacuuming. He took the vacuum and vacuumed my head. I had a bald spot for five years." -Molly K.
"I don't have too many of my own, but Dana I sure as hell remember watching you somersault down the cement bowl of the skate park when I was trying to teach you how to roller blade. Your elbow was bleeding the whole day." -Alexandra N.(Yes, I do have a huge scar from that lovely day.)
"For Dana’s birthday every year we went to walk the rock coast in Rockport MA. Her mom only had one rule for this birthday weekend: no flip flops. I wore flip flops. Now I have a nice big scar in the middle of my shin" -Katie O.
"I was at the first fireworks that I remember, and a falling firework ash fell into my Wellington boot and burned me. I was only three when it happened." -Kate G.
"While riding my dirt bike in 8th grade, I slid out in the mud. My Suzuki landed on top of my leg, I was pinned on my back like a turtle. I calmly turned the engine off, then turned to panic as I felt the burning on my leg. As I was in the mud, I couldn’t get any traction to lift the bike. I yelled, I cried, I blacked out, I awoke…to see my younger brother ride down a hill to me, he jumped off his bike while it was still moving, and he pulled the bike off of me, using all of his 6th grade 80 lbs! My dad, who was riding ahead, estimated it was 10 minutes or so. It felt like a lifetime. My little brother grew up to be a firefighter, still saving people from burning! The result: 3rd degree burns, two large ovals on my calf that perfectly reflected the exhaust shield. They look like bite marks, so I used to tell people I was bitten by a shark. Over the years, I've told the story so many times that it's become convincing enough to fool just about anyone." -Anthony V. (Dad)
"I grabbed a hot tail pipe as a child because it was shiny-- I got second degree burns on my hands." -Shane N.
My last scar story isn't too wild, but I have a tiny, tiny scar on my arm. It's from when I was in the hospital senior year -- as a result of a PICC line (peripherally inserted central catheter). Basically, it goes from your arm to your heart to give you nutrients, medications, and take blood from. I got it in the ICU at Massachusetts General Hospital -- it was one of the lowest parts of my life for sure, and I was very weak. But I love that scar, it's right in the middle of my bicep, so I see it and think how strong I've become since I got it.
Scars teach lessons -- be proud of your life marks. If you're ever worried about showing your scars, take a lesson from my dad:
"I needed surgery to fix a shoulder that dislocated four times in two years. Before I went “out”, my doctor told me he’d try to keep the scar small. Under the anesthesia, I told him, “for all the pain I’ve endured, make it big, I want a good story to tell”. So I have a 6 inch long, half inch wide scar on my right shoulder."
FAQs
What are signs you are upper middle class? ›
In academic models, the term "upper middle class" applies to highly educated, salaried professionals whose work is largely self-directed. Many have postgraduate degrees, with educational attainment serving as the main distinguishing feature of this class.
What are the characteristics of upper class household? ›They generally have the highest status in society and hold a great deal of wealth. Because of this, they also carry a considerable amount of power—politically, economically, and financially. Members of the upper class carry a considerable amount of power—politically, economically, and financially.
What are 3 characteristics of the upper class? ›- Wealth. The upper class are typically defined as the top one or two percent of families in terms of wealth. ...
- Income. ...
- Labor. ...
- Old Money. ...
- Cultural Capital. ...
- Social Status. ...
- Signaling. ...
- Countersignaling.
They include such occupations as lawyer, physician, dentist, engineer, professor, architect, civil service executive, and civilian contractor. Many members of the upper-middle class have graduate degrees, such as law, business, or medical degrees, which are often required for professional occupations.
How do you behave in high class society? ›- Be punctual. It shows you value and respect someone time. ...
- Keep your word. ...
- Be gracious. ...
- Use polite language. ...
- Where adequate clothing, appropriate for the environment. ...
- Put down your phone. ...
- Don't drink too much alcohol. ...
- Be attentive to those around you.
Upper class — this is a term about a noble social class with a lot of admiration. These people are very rich and normally, their immense wealth has been passed through many generations. However, in many cases, it is impossible to tell if a person is from this noble class if you only look at how she/he spends money.
What is a class trait for the upper class? ›Class Traits
People may associate the upper class with enjoyment of costly, refined, or highly cultivated tastes—expensive clothing, luxury cars, high-end fund-raisers, and opulent vacations.
One objective way some researchers divide individuals into economic classes is by looking at their incomes. From that data, they split earners into different classes: poor, lower-middle class, middle class, upper-middle class and wealthy.
What are upper class boundaries? ›Class boundaries are the end points of an open interval which contains the class interval such that the lower class boundary (LCB) is the LCL minus one-half the tolerance and the upper class boundary (UCB) is the UCL plus one-half the tolerance.
What is a upper middle class lifestyle? ›The upper middle class are able to get high paying jobs because they have the highest level of education, and they tend to have a skill set that other people do not have. They tend to occupy white-collar jobs, have university degrees, have comfortable houses with mortgages, go on holiday yearly, and drive nice cars.
Where do upper middle class live? ›
The South and West dominate the top of the list. According to Census regional divisions, half of our top 10 states are in the American South (Florida, Texas, North Carolina, South Carolina and Tennessee), and the other half are in the West (Arizona, Idaho, Nevada, Washington State and Colorado).
What is the difference between upper class and upper middle class? ›The upper middle class is often made up of highly educated business and professional people with high incomes, such as doctors, lawyers, stockbrokers, and CEOs. Comprising only 1 to 3 percent of the United States population, the upper class holds more than 25 percent of the nation's wealth.
How do you appear high class? ›- Avoid logos and remove all tags from your clothes. ...
- Tailor your clothes to fit your body. ...
- Know your clothes/fabrics. ...
- Wear tasteful and unusual accessories. ...
- Take care of your clothes: Polished always looks expensive. ...
- Shoes are critical to creating that rich person look. ...
- Get some upper-class hobbies.
Middle class families tend to own their own home (although with a mortgage), own a car (although with a loan or lease), send their kids to college (although with student loans or scholarships), are saving for retirement, and have enough disposable savings to afford certain luxuries like dining out and vacations.
What are the distinguishing characteristics of the upper class in America? ›The main distinguishing feature of this class is their source of income. While the vast majority of people and households derive their income from salaries, those in the upper class derive their income primarily from investments and capital gains.
How does social class affect personality? ›Social class can affect how we perceive our own abilities. Compared to people from a relatively low social class, those of a higher social class tend to have a more favourable view of themselves, for instance, showing higher self-esteem and a greater degree of narcissism.
How can you tell if someone is low class? ›- Quora users revealed the behaviours that mark people out as being 'lower class'
- Swearing, chewing with your mouth open and gossiping all appeared on the list.
- Others noted it was manners, more than money, that determined class.
Most sociologists define social class as a grouping based on similar social factors like wealth, income, education, and occupation. These factors affect how much power and prestige a person has.
What wealth class is the happiest? ›Adults who self-identify as being in the upper or upper-middle class are generally happier, healthier and more satisfied with their jobs than are those in the middle or lower classes.
What is a high class man? ›informal term for an upper-class or wealthy person.
What is considered upper lower class? ›
Lower-income households have incomes lower than two-thirds of the median, and upper-income households have incomes that are more than double the median.
What are people in the upper class known as? ›aristocracy. noun. the people in the highest class of society, who usually have money, land, and power and who often have special titles, such as 'duke' or 'countess': can be followed by a singular or plural verb.
What is a major characteristic of the upper upper class? ›The upper class in modern capitalist societies is often distinguished by the possession of largely inherited wealth. The ownership of large amounts of property and the income derived from it confer many advantages upon the members of the upper class.
What are the advantages of the upper class? ›People in the highest SES bracket, generally referred to as the upper class, likely have better access to healthcare, marry people of higher social status, attend more prestigious schools, and are more influential in politics than people in the middle class or working class.
What are the 5 main social classes? ›Gallup has, for a number of years, asked Americans to place themselves -- without any guidance -- into five social classes: upper, upper-middle, middle, working and lower. These five class labels are representative of the general approach used in popular language and by researchers.
What is open end class? ›In an open-ended frequency distribution, one or more than one class is open-ended. It simply means that the lower limit of the first class is not given or the upper limit of the last class is not given or both of them are not given. It does not have a boundary.
How do you find the upper class limit? ›To find the upper limit of the first class, subtract one from the lower limit of the second class. Then continue to add the class width to this upper limit to find the rest of the upper limits. Find the boundaries by subtracting 0.5 units from the lower limits and adding 0.5 units from the upper limits.
What is upper middle class for a single person? ›State | Single | Couple |
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Arizona | $25,024 – $75,071 | $35,389 – $106,166 |
Arkansas | $22,675 – $68,025 | $32,067 – $96,202 |
California | $29,851 – $89,552 | $42,215 – $126,646 |
Colorado | $26,876 – $80,629 | $38,009 – $114,026 |
The Middle Class And Upper Middle Class Are Different
That's between $42,330 and $126,358, using the U.S. Census Bureau's 2020 median income of all households. We can also define middle class in terms of net worth. According to the U.S. Census data, the average net worth for U.S. households in 2022 is about $300,000.
Quintile | Definition | Median Net Worth |
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Next 20% | Lower-Middle Class | $43,760 |
Middle 20% | Middle Class | $104,700 |
Next 20% | Upper-Middle Class | $201,800 |
Top 20% | Wealthy | $608,900 |
Are suburbs middle class? ›
Americans living in suburbs tend to consider themselves middle class, but most city-dwellers can't say the same. The letter F.
What are middle class jobs? ›A middle class job is a term used to describe the professional, non-manual jobs that are thought to be responsible for most of America's economic growth. Middle class jobs require at least an associate's degree, if not a bachelor's degree (or higher), and they pay relatively well compared to lower-class jobs.
What salary is considered middle class for a single person? ›"Middle class" is defined by the PRC as those earning between two-thirds and twice the median American household income, which in 2021 was $70,784, according to the United States Census Bureau. That means American households earning between $47,189 to $141,568 are in the "middle class" as defined by the PRC.
What are the features of social class? ›- The members of each class have relatively the same status. ...
- Persons within a given class tend to behave alike. ...
- Social class is hierarchical. ...
- Social class is measured by a combination of variables. ...
- Social class is mobile. ...
- Social class and status differentiation.
- Home Ownership. Owning a home remains the American dream. ...
- Owning a Car. ...
- A College Education for the Kids. ...
- Retirement Security. ...
- Healthcare Coverage. ...
- Family Vacation.
In Western cultures, persons in the middle class tend to have a higher proportion of college degrees than those in the working class, have more income available for consumption, and may own property. Those in the middle class often are employed as professionals, managers, and civil servants.
What is a middle class lifestyle? ›We all know what a middle class INCOME is. That's easy to find out from the government. The median household income is roughly $75,000 in 2023. Therefore, if you make +/- 50% of $75,000, or $37,500 to $112,500, you have a middle-class income. The median home price in America is ~$400,000.
What are middle class spending habits? ›Middle-income households spend more than half of their budget on core items such as housing, food, clothing, health and education. Leisure spending (including recreation, culture, hotels, restaurants and alcohol) accounts, on average, for 12% of middle-class budget.
What is considered upper middle class lifestyle? ›The upper middle class are able to get high paying jobs because they have the highest level of education, and they tend to have a skill set that other people do not have. They tend to occupy white-collar jobs, have university degrees, have comfortable houses with mortgages, go on holiday yearly, and drive nice cars.
Am I upper middle or upper class? ›Income group | Income |
---|---|
Low income | Less than $52,200 |
Middle income | $52,200 - $156,600 |
Upper income | More than $156,600 |
What net worth is considered upper middle class? ›
Quintile | Definition | Median Net Worth |
---|---|---|
Next 20% | Lower-Middle Class | $43,760 |
Middle 20% | Middle Class | $104,700 |
Next 20% | Upper-Middle Class | $201,800 |
Top 20% | Wealthy | $608,900 |
One of the ways the Brookings Institution defines “middle class” is those in the 20th to 80th percentiles of household income. This would make 60% of American households middle class. The Urban Institute defines the middle class as those whose income is from 250% to 499% of the federal poverty line.
What are middle class family values? ›The term middle-class values is used by various writers and politicians to include such qualities as hard work, self-discipline, thrift, honesty, aspiration and ambition.
What is the difference between middle class and upper middle class? ›The lower middle class is often made up of less educated people with lower incomes, such as managers, small business owners, teachers, and secretaries. The upper middle class is often made up of highly educated business and professional people with high incomes, such as doctors, lawyers, stockbrokers, and CEOs.
How would you describe an upper class? ›noun. : a social class occupying a position above the middle class and having the highest status in a society.
What is the advantage of upper class? ›People in the highest SES bracket, generally referred to as the upper class, likely have better access to healthcare, marry people of higher social status, attend more prestigious schools, and are more influential in politics than people in the middle class or working class.